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Game on! Our favorite 2-person games

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We really try to be intentional about our time together as opposed to just putting on the TV all of the time. Playing board games together is definitely on the list! But sometimes it’s hard to find 2-player games that are fun and worth the money. For example, Catan is one of our favorite family games, but you need at least 3 players.

So we wanted to share some of our favorite 2-player games…and what we like and dislike about them. Please share your favorite games in the comments! (Games make great gifts for the couples in your life, by the way!)

Dominion

Synopsis: It’s a deck-building game where you try to get the most treasure (AKA victory points).

What we like: Each game is different because you can change out the cards used each time. It’s also takes the perfect amount of time to play, about 30 minutes. Not too long, not too short.

What we don’t like: It has a bad first impression. You have to play a couple games before you realize how awesome it is.

Monopoly Deal

Synopsis: Be the first to collect 3 sets of properties (via cards and not on a board).

What we like: It’s much quicker than the original Monopoly game, and it only requires cards. We often play this on our bed, which is cool. No table required!

What we don’t like: Some of the cards will make you hate each other! Ha. Deal Breaker card, we’re looking at you. (Seriously, though.)

Carcassonne

Synopsis: It’s a tile-laying game that takes place in medieval times. Build cities and roads while you try to score the most points!

What we like: It only requires tiles and meeples (the little people), and there’s a scoreboard included…so no paper and pen needed. It’s also easy to learn.

What we don’t like: We want to buy all the expansions now. Well played, Carcassonne. Well played.

Rack-O

Synopsis: Be the first to arrange your rack from lowest number to the highest.

What we like: It’s easy to learn and there is no way to make each other mad by ruining their chances.

What we don’t like: Keeping score (requiring pen and paper) is a little annoying. We also don’t ever play as long as the instructions say, until one person scores 500 points. That takes too long!

Scrabble

Synopsis: Score as many points as you can by creating words with the letters you randomly choose.

What we like: This game is nostalgic for us, as it was probably the first game that we played often together.

What we don’t like: Keeping score. But maybe we are just weird.

Sushi Go

Synopsis: Collect sushi cards while attempting to score the most points.

What we like: It’s a game all about our favorite takeout food! You also pass your hand of cards around, which is a neat twist.

What we don’t like: It was very confusing at first, and we are always consulting the instruction book. We actually have the Sushi Go Party version, so that might be why (more cards are included). But many people prefer the Party version! You can play with 2 players for both.

Go Nuts for Donuts

Synopsis: Collect donut cards while attempting to score the most points.

What we like: It’s similar to Sushi Go, but easier to learn and you don’t pass all of your cards each turn.

What we don’t like: It makes us want to eat donuts.

Ticket to Ride

Synopsis: Complete as many train routes as you can so you can earn the most points.

What we like: It’s a mini geography lesson, since you’re building routes from one city to another.

What we don’t like: There are opportunities to be a jerk and cut off someone’s route, which leads to some hard feelings. But maybe you aren’t as competitive as us. 🙃

Other 2-player games we enjoy but just haven’t played in awhile (AKA honorable mention):

Qwirkle

Bananagrams

What are your favorite 2-player games? We’re always looking new suggestions!

A tiny book that’s worth it just for the appendices {a book review}

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Couples, Awaken Your Love!

I recently read Couples, Awaken Your Love! by Robert Cardinal Sarah, a book that surprisingly doesn’t seem very well known. A priest friend very active in marriage ministry saw it on our kitchen table while visiting, and he was so intrigued that he immediately ordered some copies for couples he knew! (I was only a couple chapters into reading it at the time so I didn’t have much of a review to offer him.)

Cardinal Sarah is already well known for many books, including The Power of Silence and God or Nothing. This little book, Couples, Awaken Your Love!, is currently his only book on marriage. It includes short reflections from a retreat he gave to couples in Lourdes, France, in 2019.

This book is for marriages in all stages, from newlyweds to those who have been married for decades. I think any married couple will find a few nuggets of wisdom! My favorite reflections were on the Eucharist and spiritual combat. 

Honestly, I think anyone can and should read this book, married or not. It addresses many of the issues attacking marriage and family life today, and considering the final battle will be against marriage and family life (and let’s be real, we’re in it now), we all need to be aware of how we can win this battle. Cardinal Sarah quotes many church documents and other writings, and personally I was inspired to pull up some of those documents to continue reading.

This little book would be a great option for couples to read together, as each chapter is fairly short. It would likely start some very valuable discussions! Because this is a book review, I do have to share this: sometimes at the end of a chapter/reflection, I would find myself saying, That’s it? I want more! Some reflections are very short, and there were a few that I was questioning why it was included. But the former could very well be because it’s an edited work, and the latter might have to do something with translation.

The hidden gems at the back of the book

Regardless of what one might think about the reflections, though, I think this book is worth it solely for the appendices, one on conjugal prayer and one entitled “Workshop: A Time for Listening”.

The appendix on prayer gives couples a daily plan, so to speak, on how to pray together. It also gives a week’s worth of that plan with specific Scripture passages. One can easily use the daily plan with other Scripture passages. Logan and I really enjoy using this prayer plan together, so this book now sits on my nightstand. It includes it all, really — time to examine your conscience, opportunities to both ask forgiveness from your spouse and to affirm your spouse, Scripture reading, rote prayers, a meditation to read, and a prayer for spouses. It might sound like a lot, but it takes less than 10 minutes.

The second appendix on listening would be great to use if there is a topic that is causing tension in a marriage. Cardinal Sarah gives some very helpful suggestions for this listening workshop, but Logan and I haven’t actually gone through it together yet.

Overall, I’m glad I finally read this after it sat on my bookshelf for an entire year, and I have a few pages marked to revisit. I enjoyed Cardinal Sarah’s The Power of Silence several years ago, and it’s obvious he’s a very intelligent and prayerful man. I enjoyed reading his reflections with a marriage spin.

5 ways to enrich your marriage this summer

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We’re in full summer mode over here, which looks very different from life during the school year. So we try to remember that it’s still important to be focusing on our marriage, and we often have more bandwidth to do so. If you need some ideas on how to enrich your marriage this summer, we’ve got plenty of ideas and resources for you!

1. Create a summer bucket list.

What are all of the things you’ve been wanting to do together for awhile? Write them down together and make it happen this summer. Go to a concert, try a new restaurant, take dance lessons, or any of the things below! A few years ago, we wanted to bake a cake together…so we did! It was so fun. (See the video here.) Download our Summer Bucket List here to list everything and check them off. Life is short, and we don’t want to regret not doing the things we want with our spouse!

2. Have fun together.

Maybe it sounds silly to include this, but sometimes we forget how important it is to enjoy each other and have fun together. We even have a budget category called “summer fun”, and even though that’s for things to do with our kids, it’s a reminder that we should have summer fun for our marriage too! Our favorite ways to have fun include going on dates (whether out of the house or at home), do silly lip sync videos (find us on Instagram), dance parties in the kitchen, and jamming out to music in the car.

Our Hawaiian themed date night in

3. Go on a retreat or do some kind of marriage enrichment together.

We talk about why we go on a retreat every year in this video and can’t recommend it enough, but the important thing is to be growing spiritually and emotionally in some way together. A retreat is our favorite way to do that, but you can also read a marriage book together (see our recommendations here), attend a marriage event, or find a workshop online.

May 2023, at the end of one of the many marriage retreats we’ve attended

4. Find a new hobby together.

This is one reason we try to do new things on dates, because we’ve learned what we enjoy doing together. So often couples just have their own interests, and while that’s important, we should also find things to do together. A few examples include gardening, playing a sport (we love to play tennis together), baking, or creating something. 

We baked a cake together in the summer of 2019 as one item on our summer bucket list!

5. Plan a getaway.

We know, we know…it can be so difficult to make this happen. But it is so worth the effort! A vacation with your kids is special in its own way, but a trip with just a husband and wife can be even more special. We’ve never gone on a long couples trip due to various reasons, but have realized that just a night or two away does wonders for our marriage! Our anniversary is during the summer, so we usually plan a quick getaway during the summer months. We already have on the calendar a quick 2-night trip and we can’t wait! (We should also note that we had grand plans to go on a cruise for our 15-year anniversary but ended up planning something much simpler. Just make it happen!)

Our getaway to a local beach town in November 2020. Fun fact: a hurricane hit the town we had planned to visit a few days before our trip, so we had to find a new place last minute. We discovered another beach town closer to home and ended up having a great time!

As with most things, these things will require time and effort. But anything worth doing in life requires that! So remember that your marriage requires constant investment. Talk to your spouse about having fun together this summer. We’re praying you can make some of these things happen!

The Holy Eucharist: the foundation your marriage needs to thrive

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After fifteen years of marriage, we have learned how important spousal prayer and living a sacramental life is to our vocation. But we have been reminded over and over again recently of the graces available to us. We have been encouraged more than ever to incorporate these great sacraments into our marriage and family life, through books, homilies, and talks. God is certainly trying to get our attention!

One of these recent talks we heard was geared towards families, where the speaker quoted St. John Paul II as saying that prayer and the sacraments of the Eucharist and Reconciliation are the “infallible and indispensable” means “to form the Christian spirituality of conjugal and familial life” (originally in the pope’s general audience on Wednesday, October 3, 1984, and then included in the book Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body).

Since marriage and the Eucharist have a special connection — in that both are a foretaste of heaven, and both involve sacrifice and communion — we’re going to focus on the Eucharist today.

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The Catechism of the Catholic Church states: “The Eucharist is the ‘source and summit of the Christian life.’” If you’re married, that means the Eucharist is also the “source and summit” of your married life. Many holy men confirm this, including St. John Paul II who says, “The Eucharist is the very source of Christian marriage” (Familiaris consortio, no. 57).

While reading Robert Cardinal Sarah’s book for married couples, Couples, Awaken Your Love!, I thought it was very interesting that the first two chapters are about the Eucharist. You can listen to all of the best marriage advice in the world, but if you are not centering your marriage on God, specifically in the Eucharist, you will not have the graces needed for your vocation. Cardinal Sarah tells couples that the Mass and Eucharistic Communion “is the source of their married life, and therefore, of their family life.” He continues: “There is no authentic married life without the Mass, without the Holy Eucharist” (page 17).

The Eucharist is a gift for marriage

Do we realize the great gift we have in the Eucharist? Do we believe that it truly is the source of our married and family life? Do we express our gratitude to the Lord for this great sacrament? (After all, the word “Eucharist” comes from the Greek word that means “thanksgiving”.) Have we turned to the Eucharist as the source of grace while navigating the trials of marriage?

I don’t mean to oversimplify the solution to all marriage problems, but I daresay we may be underestimating the graces of the Eucharist. Our pastor recently said in a homily that through the Eucharist, the impossible becomes second nature. So that means we can overcome any weakness, vice, or addiction. Through receiving Holy Communion, we become more like Christ.  And when we become more like Him, we love as He loves.

When you’re at a crossroads in your marriage and family life, go to the Eucharist. Make the Eucharist the center of your life. The Church has recorded over 100 Eucharistic miracles that confirm the presence of Jesus — Body, Blood, Soul, & Divinity. 

But how many more miracles of the heart have there been? How many marriages have been strengthened through the Eucharist? How could the Eucharist strengthen YOUR marriage? 

How we can make the Eucharist the center of our marriage

As Catholics, we have an obligation to attend Mass every Sunday and on Holy Days of Obligation. But instead of seeing it as an obligation, let’s see it as a gift. We don’t have to receive Jesus in the Eucharist — we get to receive Him. It is truly a gift. He wanted a way to be with us always. 

First Communion for one of our boys

Sunday Mass should be the climax of our week, as our family all receives our Lord in Holy Communion together. And that’s not our only chance to incorporate the Eucharist in our married and family life. We can attend daily Mass. We can spend time with Jesus in an adoration chapel or any Catholic Church.

I’ve always loved this quote from Venerable Fulton J. Sheen in his book Three to Get Married:

“Two glasses that are empty cannot fill up one another. There must be a fountain of water outside the glasses, in order that they may have communion with one another. It takes three to make love.”

(We have a print with this quote for you!) That fountain is the Eucharist. Build your marriage and family life around the Eucharist, and you will have sustenance for the journey.

Thrift store date: a trust challenge between spouses

Many years ago, Logan saw a post on Facebook about a couple who went to Goodwill on a date and picked out each other’s clothes for $10 or less. They then wore those clothes to dinner immediately afterwards. Logan was adamant we do the same!

I wasn’t so sure about it, since I was fairly certain he would pick out an 80s prom dress or something equally ridiculous. But he got some friends of ours to agree to go with us, so we went.

I’ll be honest with you — I was a little terrified. Not only do I dislike shopping, I did not trust Logan to pick out something I liked. And my little introverted self definitely did not want to wear something crazy out in public!

But I took a leap of faith and trusted Logan not to embarrass me.

Our “before” picture

Do I look nervous? I was nervous. 

Logan picked out a couple of dresses for me to try on, and there was a clear winner!

Our “after” picture with our “new” clothes

I was thankful he decided I needed a cute $6 dress. It got plenty of use over the next few years, so much so that it eventually got a hole and I had to get rid of it. Despite me trying to find something decent for Logan, I was limited by sizes. But he actually still wears those shorts!

We, along with our friends who were with us, changed into our “new” clothes and headed to dinner together. It was surprisingly so much fun that Logan and I decided to try it again the following year and ended up having even more fun. I accidentally picked a ladies shirt out for him, so we ended up going back after our meal to get him a men’s shirt. He found me another cute dress, which is still hanging in our closet. (You can actually see this date in action in our very first Instagram highlight here. We were very new to Instagram back then, so be warned, ha.)

Since then, we’ve done many more dates like this and have even put a couple of them on our YouTube channel! Logan has found several more great pieces of clothing for me since then, and much of my closet is because of our thrift store dates.

This is the date where Logan picked something I felt super uncomfortable wearing at first but now it is honestly one of my favorite dresses. I’m so thankful he took a risk in picking this one and I’m glad I was brave and wore it anyway.

And this is the date where I refused to buy the cute yellow dress (because it was so form fitting) and Logan still regrets not buying it anyway!

What we’ve learned from thrift store dates

It’s crazy how going on these dates and picking each other’s clothes has made us realize a few things. It’s one reason we encourage couples to try new things together (one of the things we talk about in our Date Night Guide). You just never know what you might learn about yourself or your spouse! Here are some things we’ve learned:

  1. Logan is great at picking out my clothes. He picks things that I would never pick myself but end up looking much better than I expect.
  2. We LOVE thrift store shopping. Most of our clothes now come from thrift stores!
  3. Getting out of our comfort zone sometimes is a very good thing.

We also learned that we love each other enough not to embarrass each other. It’s still funny to pick out embarrassing clothes for the other to try on, but we don’t end up buying it. 

So are you ready for the challenge? Do you trust your spouse to pick out your clothes? Make your next date one to remember!


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When infertility is part of God’s plan for your marriage

We wanted kids as soon as we were married, despite being young (newly 23 and almost 23) and not having the best financial situation. (Just call us crazy!) And even though we found out during our engagement while taking NFP classes that it might be a struggle to get pregnant, we knew God had a plan.

Lo and behold, we got pregnant less than 2 months after our wedding. We were so thrilled!! The pregnancy was going perfectly until it suddenly ended at 22 weeks.

Then we struggled getting pregnant again. And while our time of infertility was small compared to many (less than 2 years), we still remember the pain and the struggle. Not knowing if we’d ever have a baby to hold this side of heaven. Wondering why the desire to be parents was so strong from the very beginning just to have to watch everyone else get their turn first.

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Our second Christmas as husband and wife…still no baby, but we did have a puppy!

Of course this may be really silly (annoying, even?) coming from a couple with 4 boys now, but we just wanted to tell you that we see you. We see your struggle and pray for you often, especially after experiencing another period of infertility before we were blessed with our youngest son. And we hope the following is encouraging for you…

Our marriage would not be as strong as it is now had we not gone through all of that together. We know not to judge small or childless families. We know the silent cross of infertility is one of the most difficult. We don’t take our children for granted, because they were all very much prayed for and wanted long before we held them in our arms. The time where we longed for a baby gave us a chance to focus on our marriage and build a strong foundation for the children that we prayed would follow.

Our oldest three sons came every two years. Our fourth son came 5 years after that. We had wanted a bigger gap…but not that big. But now that he’s here and we see the dynamic between him and the older boys, we know it’s exactly the age gap our family needed. And only God knew that would be the case!

husband, wife, and four sons acting silly
Our family, Easter 2024

So if you’re struggling with infertility, let us remind you that God redeems everything. God knows what each marriage and family needs and in the time we need it. Is it a coincidence that National Infertility Awareness week always falls during the Easter season? Maybe. But it’s a great reminder that God redeems everything. Our sin, our heartache, and even your infertility.

Your story may not end up like ours, but we know there will be redemption in some way. Just keep your eyes on Him. We are praying for you!

Check out our other posts about infertility:

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Controversial, but powerful: Putting your spouse before your kids

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A few years ago, we saw a post on Facebook where a woman stated that her daughter did not come before her husband. The majority of people commenting on it thought she was crazy (among other things) and said she shouldn’t have kids.

We know it’s hard to understand a statement like that when you have young children who depend on you to change them, feed them, and love them. But it’s true… your marriage should come before your kids. Your family is only as healthy as your marriage is, and so when we prioritize our marriage, our children will benefit. (And so will the rest of the world, but that’s a topic for another day!)

This is a friendly reminder that your marriage came before your kids in the first place (in most cases), and it should be first once your kids are all grown up too. It may look different in those years in between, but your marriage should still be the most important human relationship in your life. It is the one relationship that you vowed to be there in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, until death do you part. 

Why you should keep your marriage a priority now… and not later

Many people did not have a good example of marriage growing up so it may not make sense to put your spouse first when they are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. Kids need us, after all! That’s especially true when they’re younger.

But it’s important to remember that our children live with us for a brief period of time (in most cases), and even if you’re one of the few that have the responsibility of caring for your children for their entire lives (in the case of special needs), it’s still important — perhaps even more so — to put your marriage first.

Statistics show that the divorce rate for couples over age 50 have increased over the last few decades. You’ve likely heard of “empty nest syndrome”, and it’s one of the reasons for the increase in divorce for older couples. If you’re focused so much on your children to the detriment of your marriage, it’s going to be a rough transition when your children move out.

While we love our children dearly and will definitely miss them once they’re on their own, we also are looking forward to the phase of life where our children are on their own and we have more time with each other, if God blesses us with that opportunity.

But we should also point out that since we don’t know the future, we’re not waiting for that phase. It’s very possible that if/when we’re empty nesters, we might be dealing with serious illness or another difficult situation that would take up just as much time as our children take up now…which is just one of the reasons why we’re focusing on our marriage now and not later. We are living in the present moment!

What putting your marriage first looks like

So let’s first talk about what putting your marriage first DOESN’T mean…

It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad parent.

It doesn’t mean you don’t like your children.

It doesn’t mean that you let your children fend for themselves.

It doesn’t mean that you stop nursing your baby to make your husband a sandwich. (That one is extreme, but hopefully it made you giggle! 🙃)

We could give more examples, but hopefully that helps to clarify a little. Now for what it ACTUALLY means to put your spouse first:

It means that you and your spouse consistently dedicate time together with just the two of you.

It means that money for dates deserves a line in your budget. (We’re not saying you even have to spend money on dates…but make sure dates are a priority above other unnecessary things. See our date night guide for more!)

It means nourishing the relationship that will always be there. Your children will grow up and be on their own one day, but your spouse will still be there. (We know there are exceptions. Parents of kids with special needs, we see you. ❤️)

It means considering your spouse’s feelings and opinions ahead of anyone else’s. (And no, we don’t mean enabling bad behavior.)

It means finding shared interests even if you’re complete opposites.

It means consulting them when you have a decision to make.

It means giving your spouse your first fruits (after God, of course), instead of giving what’s left of you at the end of the day.

It means working on yourself so you can be the best spouse possible, because then you will be the best parent possible.

It means showing your children what a strong marriage looks like, because that is one of the greatest gifts you can give them.

A recent example of us putting our marriage first

We know it’s not easy, especially when you have a clingy toddler or an emotional teenager. But in our experience, when our marriage is thriving, we’re better able to be patient, loving, and firm parents. Our kids love it when we love each other well!

A couple of months ago, we were planning on attending a family-friendly event at a nearby church. We had enjoyed it very much the previous year and didn’t have a reason to not attend.

The week leading up to the event, however, was insane. The whole month before was crazy, actually, but this particular week was especially rough. It included an ER trip for one of our boys, the sudden announcement of our pastor leaving, difficulties at work for both of us, and just lots of other frustrating and inconvenient things. So we made the last minute decision to not attend the church event and to go on a date night instead! It ended up being a much-needed night of connection after a very crazy week. Our kids still had a great time with our friend/babysitter, and we were very happy with our decision to change plans and put our marriage first.

As long as you’re still giving your children what they need (and this will require some discernment), you won’t regret putting your spouse first. It is very possible to keep your marriage a priority without neglecting your children. It’s also 100% worth it – for the sake of your marriage, your family, and the rest of the world.

Why your marriage needs St. Joseph

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In the early years of our marriage, we (like most couples) were having our share of trials. I remember specifically when I was pregnant with our second son, and we had a lot of scares with the pregnancy. My pregnancy was already high-risk due to my incompetent cervix, but ultrasounds were showing some other concerns, and one of my doctors was concerned about our baby.

In addition, we had a strong-willed one-year old and many unexpected bills. Needless to say, we were overwhelmed. Logan felt immense pressure as the head of our family, so much so that it manifested in physical ways. One night, I found him passed out in the bathroom! (All checked out fine, but it was still scary!)

I started to ask St. Joseph to pray for Logan and to help him as a husband and father. I even prayed a novena to St. Joseph, with the intention that Logan would be less stressed and able to handle everything better. A few days after my novena, Logan suddenly shared with me how he was feeling, and I knew St. Joseph was intervening. He is such a great spiritual father!

We received this as a gift for Christmas one year but you can find prints here. It hangs in our bedroom and we love it!

St. Joseph is the Pillar of Families

St. Joseph has been so good to our family ever since! We have asked for his prayers with our marriage, jobs, finances, pregnancies…just to name a few. And in 2021 during the Year of St. Joseph, Logan finally started a new job…on the feast of St. Joseph! His intercession more recently has also been pretty amazing – like answering novena prayers before we even finished his novena! We love him.

We named our third son after St. Joseph, because we were so thankful for his intercession, and now we are convinced that everyone needs him as a patron!

Why your marriage needs St. Joseph

We all know that marriage is hard. Even though we all experience different trials as couples, we all could learn something from St. Joseph. 

St. Joseph was responsible for protecting, guiding, and providing for the son of God and the mother of God (talk about pressure, right?). If you are struggling in your vocation as spouse and parent, ask St. Joseph for prayers.

St. Joseph is called “most chaste” because he was the most chaste human man who ever lived. When you’re struggling with chastity (because we’re all called to chastity, even in marriage), ask St. Joseph for prayers.

God spoke to St. Joseph while he was sleeping, and St. Joseph immediately did what God asked, even if it seemed crazy — like taking his wife and newborn son to a strange and possibly dangerous country. When you are struggling with discernment and don’t know what God is asking of you, ask St. Joseph for prayers.

Because of Scripture, we know the Holy Family was poor. St. Joseph trusted God in the midst of their poverty. When you are struggling financially, ask St. Joseph for prayers.

St. Joseph was the holiest husband and father who ever lived, and that’s why your marriage needs him. He wants us to be holy spouses and parents as well, and he understands how difficult it can be in our human nature.

How you can get to know St. Joseph

We could honestly talk about St. Joseph all day, but for now, we just want to leave you with 3 ways to get to know St. Joseph.

  1. Ask him for prayers for your marriage and family every single day. We have no doubt that he will answer you! We also recommend his novena, which you can find at Pray More Novenas
  2. Consecrate yourself to him. We highly recommend the book Consecration to St. Joseph, which we first read together in 2020. There is so much to learn about St. Joseph from this book, and consecrating yourself to him is a surefire way of getting his help in our married vocation.
  3. Celebrate his feast days. He has two! The major one is the Solemnity of St. Joseph, Husband of the Blessed Virgin Mary on March 19. There is also an optional memorial of St. Joseph the Worker on May 1. His solemnity is one of our favorite days to celebrate! 

St. Joseph’s Altar

Speaking of his feast days, we love celebrating the Solemnity of St. Joseph on March 19. In New Orleans (where we live), there is a big tradition of building altars in honor of St. Joseph on this day. It’s a tradition that started in Italy, when there was a drought in Sicily and people begged St. Joseph for help. He answered their prayers and it rained! In thanksgiving, everyone set up tables of food to honor St. Joseph and then shared it with those in need. We continue that tradition today.

During the pandemic in 2020, there were no St. Joseph Altars at any churches since everything was shut down. So we decided to make our own altar at home!

You can see the details in our video above. Church altars resumed in 2021 so we didn’t do one at home, but then we realized we could still do both! So since then, we have continued to do this every year as a way to thank St. Joseph for all he has done for our family. We encourage you to bring St. Joseph into your marriage, because he truly is the most amazing saint that every marriage needs.

St. Joseph, pray for us!

What you can do during National Marriage Week

Every year,  February 7-14 is recognized as National Marriage Week. It really is the perfect time to celebrate the gift of married life and to show appreciation for our spouse. It’s also a great idea to do a little extra something when it comes to nurturing your relationship together. And in case you wanted some ideas on exactly what you can do during National Marriage Week, we have some ideas…

1. Pray for all marriages.

This includes your own! We need strong and faithful marriages more than ever, and since prayer is so powerful, we need to make sure we’re praying for all marriages.

2. Show love and appreciation for your spouse.

How you do this can vary widely, but we always look to each other’s love languages for inspiration.

3. Plan a date night.

Even if you think date nights aren’t necessary in a marriage, it’s still good to get out together every once and awhile! Date night doesn’t need to be fancy. It just needs to be intentional quality time for just you and your spouse. Check out our date night guide for more thoughts and tips! We also have ideas on having date nights at home.

4. Read a marriage book together.

We share some favorites on our Recommendations page, but there are so many more to choose from! Reading together provides the perfect opportunity to have some great conversation.

5. Choose an enrichment program or online retreat to go through together.

Just like certain professions require continuing education, we should be doing the same with our marriage! There’s an extensive list of enrichment programs at the USCCB’s website, For Your Marriage, here. We can personally vouch for how amazing United in Love is, which we did several years ago through our church parish. We’ve also hosted The Couple Prayer series a few times, and it’s been so fruitful for all couples. For Your Marriage also offers an online retreat every year for National Marriage Week; see the 2025 retreat here.

6. Listen to a marriage talk.

Dr. Brant Pitre has some great ones (like this one and this one), and there are plenty others one to be found on Formed.org by Venerable Fulton Sheen, Dr. Scott Hahn, and others.

7. Book a marriage retreat for the upcoming year.

We love retreats! Here are 10 reasons why you should go on a marriage retreat. We also share why we try to go on a retreat every year in this video: Why We Retreat

We encourage you to focus on your marriage throughout Lent too! Since Lent is coming soon, check out our Lenten marriage resources:

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Do one thing for your marriage each day this Lent {2024 Lent Challenge}

Update: Check out our 2025 Lent Challenge!

For many years, we have picked one thing to do during Lent together as a married couple — whether it’s a new spiritual practice, a book to read together, or something that we will both give up. And we’ve also seen the power of doing small things with great love in our marriage. During Lent, we try to do both!

So that’s the inspiration behind our Lent Challenge for Catholic Marriages, and why we are offering it for the fourth year in a row! It’s a simple way to keep your marriage a priority while doing something extra during Lent… and also focusing on the pillars of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving.

What’s included

We provide a calendar of challenges and a supplemental guide (and this year, you can buy one or the other, or both!). For every day of Lent, we have a challenge for you to complete together — this year Lent is during February and March. Both the calendar and guide have the challenges, but the guide has more thoughts about each challenge and ideas on how to complete it.

The challenges range from fun to spiritual. There are many ways to connect and pray together, and we wanted to include as many of them as possible. Hopefully this Lent challenge will help you figure out which devotions and small acts of love you want to continue once Lent is over. More importantly, it will help you connect with your spouse each day of Lent!

Also included with the calendar is a blank calendar for February and March that you can use to keep track of your Lent commitments and events, or you can fill in challenges of your own (using our challenges too, if you’d like). 

As we always say with both our Lent and Advent challenges: don’t let these challenges stress you out. Yes, some of them may get you out of your comfort zone a little bit. But if you miss a day (or two…or three), just pick back up where you left off. The goal is to spend time together and pray together throughout the Lenten season. 

New this year – separate downloads!

This year, we’re offering the calendar and guide separately! We realize some people appreciate the brevity of the calendar, while others find the guide more useful. Feel free to buy one or the other… or both! Personally, we print out the calendar, laminate it, and put it in our bathroom as a daily reminder for each day’s challenge. Then we refer to the guide when we need some ideas. It is up to you on how you utilize these resources. Please let us know if you have any suggestions or comments! We would love to hear from you.

Note: These are all digital downloads. A physical product will not be mailed to you. After checking out, you will receive an email with a link to download the PDF.  Please do not share the file(s) with anyone. If you’d like to print multiple copies, please email us for licensing options. Thank you!

Visit our online shop here to purchase! All of the options for our Lent challenge are on the top row. Or click on the different buttons below…

We are praying these tools enrich your Lenten season together! If you’re not interested in our challenge but want ideas for Lent, check out our post: What Catholic couples can do during Lent.


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