Lent – Surprised By Marriage

Do one thing for your marriage each day this Lent {2024 Lent Challenge}

Published on January 20, 2024February 3, 2025 by Jen @ Surprised by Marriage3 Comments

Update: Check out our 2025 Lent Challenge!

For many years, we have picked one thing to do during Lent together as a married couple — whether it’s a new spiritual practice, a book to read together, or something that we will both give up. And we’ve also seen the power of doing small things with great love in our marriage. During Lent, we try to do both!

So that’s the inspiration behind our Lent Challenge for Catholic Marriages, and why we are offering it for the fourth year in a row! It’s a simple way to keep your marriage a priority while doing something extra during Lent… and also focusing on the pillars of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving.

What’s included

We provide a calendar of challenges and a supplemental guide (and this year, you can buy one or the other, or both!). For every day of Lent, we have a challenge for you to complete together — this year Lent is during February and March. Both the calendar and guide have the challenges, but the guide has more thoughts about each challenge and ideas on how to complete it.

The challenges range from fun to spiritual. There are many ways to connect and pray together, and we wanted to include as many of them as possible. Hopefully this Lent challenge will help you figure out which devotions and small acts of love you want to continue once Lent is over. More importantly, it will help you connect with your spouse each day of Lent!

Also included with the calendar is a blank calendar for February and March that you can use to keep track of your Lent commitments and events, or you can fill in challenges of your own (using our challenges too, if you’d like).

As we always say with both our Lent and Advent challenges: don’t let these challenges stress you out. Yes, some of them may get you out of your comfort zone a little bit. But if you miss a day (or two…or three), just pick back up where you left off. The goal is to spend time together and pray together throughout the Lenten season.

New this year – separate downloads!

This year, we’re offering the calendar and guide separately! We realize some people appreciate the brevity of the calendar, while others find the guide more useful. Feel free to buy one or the other… or both! Personally, we print out the calendar, laminate it, and put it in our bathroom as a daily reminder for each day’s challenge. Then we refer to the guide when we need some ideas. It is up to you on how you utilize these resources. Please let us know if you have any suggestions or comments! We would love to hear from you.

Note: These are all digital downloads. A physical product will not be mailed to you. After checking out, you will receive an email with a link to download the PDF. Please do not share the file(s) with anyone. If you’d like to print multiple copies, please email us for licensing options. Thank you!

Visit our online shop here to purchase! All of the options for our Lent challenge are on the top row. Or click on the different buttons below…

lent challenge – both calendar and guide

calendar only

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We are praying these tools enrich your Lenten season together! If you’re not interested in our challenge but want ideas for Lent, check out our post: What Catholic couples can do during Lent.

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A simple way to keep your marriage a priority this Lent: 2023 Challenge

Published on February 6, 2023January 20, 2024 by Jen @ Surprised by Marriage3 Comments

January 2024 update: Check out our 2024 Lent Challenge!

It’s that time again… time to start thinking about Lent! This is the third year we’re offering a Lent Challenge for Catholic Marriages. For every day of Lent, we have a challenge for you to complete together. Then refer to the Lent challenge guide for more thoughts about each challenge and ideas on how to complete it.

Also included is a blank calendar for February, March, and April that you can use to keep track of your Lent commitments and events, or you can fill in challenges of your own.

As we like to say with both our Lent and Advent challenges: don’t let these challenges stress you out. Yes, some of them may get you out of your comfort zone a little bit. But if you miss a day (or two…or three), just pick back up where you left off. The goal is to spend time together and pray together throughout the Lenten season. Click here or the button below to purchase.

Note: This is a digital download. A physical product will not be mailed to you. After checking out, you will receive an email with a link to download the PDF. Please do not share the file with anyone. If you’d like to print multiple copies, please email us for licensing options. Thank you!

Lent Challenge for Catholic Marriages {2021}

Published on February 7, 2021February 11, 2023 by Jen @ Surprised by Marriage1 Comment

Update: Find our 2023 Lent Challenge here.

For a couple years now, we’ve shared our Advent Challenge for Married Couples. We’ve gotten such great feedback on it that we decided to do one for Lent this year!

Every day of Lent, we have a challenge for you to complete together. You can choose to just use the calendar, which goes from February to April. You can also use the blank calendar and fill in challenges of your own! Both have feast days listed. Then refer to the Lent marriage guide for more thoughts about each challenge and ideas on how to complete it.

Just like with the Advent challenge, we want to emphasize that stress is not the goal of this Lent challenge. Skip a day if necessary, or switch the challenges around to better suit your schedule. These challenges are to make sure you’re spending time together and praying together as we prepare for the Resurrection. It’s a great time to strive for holiness together as husband and wife.

The Lent challenge and guide is now available in our shop! Add it to your cart by clicking the button below…

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What Catholic couples can do during Lent

Published on January 22, 2021April 6, 2026 by Jen @ Surprised by Marriage10 Comments

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Every year, we like to propose a challenge for your marriage during Lent: pick one thing to do together throughout Lent. It’s easy to go overboard and pick several things to do, but just pick one or two!

We’ve really come to see the power of doing one small thing together and how that can lead us to holiness. While giving up sweets or alcohol or something like that isn’t a bad thing, just make sure you’re picking something that will have a positive impact on your marriage and spiritual life together.

And remember, it’s not supposed to be easy! When you’re deciding on what to do, it’s also good to remember the three pillars of Lent: prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. So while we’re encouraging you to pick only one thing to do together, you should still focus on all three pillars throughout Lent.

Ready for some ideas for what you can do during Lent with your spouse? In no particular order, here we go!

Pray together everyday, if you’re not already doing so. [It might be good to also read Praying For (and With) Your Spouse by the Popcaks.]
Read Scripture daily. Maybe a Psalm a day or a chapter from one of the Gospels.
Read Forever: A Catholic Devotional for Your Marriage by the Angels. We did this during Lent one year since it’s 6 weeks long. It only takes 5 minutes a day!
Do the enrichment program Beloved: Mystery & Meaning of Marriage. If your church parish has a subscription to Formed.org, you could do Beloved for free! There are 6 sessions, so you can do one each week in Lent.
Sign up for the Pray More Retreat. It’s a self-paced online retreat with talks, videos, and study guides. The topics look so good and would be great conversation starters!
Wake up earlier to connect and pray together.
Go on a marriage retreat.
Take Natural Family Planning classes, if you haven’t done so yet (or have been putting it off!).
Don’t watch TV. But be sure to replace that TV time with something better!
Pray a daily Rosary.
Go to daily Mass during the week (in addition to meeting your Sunday obligation).
Donate extra money to your church or favorite charity.
Volunteer at your church and in your community.
Read Three Secrets to Holiness in Marriage: A 33-Day Self-Guided Retreat for Catholic Couples by the DeMattes.
Commit to not spending any money (other than necessities and usual bills) during Lent. Have a “no spend Lent”, if you will.
Pray a Divine Mercy chaplet every day.
Invite someone over for dinner each week. Maybe it’s time to work on hospitality!
Pick a day each week to do hardcore fasting, like what’s done on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday. Fasting together makes for some good accountability.
Go to bed earlier. Make sure to pray together first!
Commit to not having your phones by you when you’re spending time together at home. Enjoy each other’s company!
Pick a person or family each week to bless in some way. Bring them a meal, offer to babysit, whatever you think might help them. (And don’t expect anything in return!)
Pray an hour from the Liturgy of the Hours each day. This can be done with an app like iBreviary or Laudate, but I’m a big fan of the one-volume Christian Prayer. (And if you want to learn more about the Liturgy of the Hours, I recommend reading The Everyday Catholic’s Guide to the Liturgy of the Hours by Daria Sockey.)
Make a weekly visit to an Adoration chapel.
Learn a new devotion together, like the Seven Sorrows Rosary or the St. Michael chaplet.
Read from Daily Companion for Married Couples each day.
Read Intimate Graces: How Practicing the Works of Mercy Brings out the Best in Marriage by Teresa Tomeo and Dominick Pastore.
Listen to a talk about Catholicism or marriage and family life each week. Catholic Productions has a great selection, and there are several awesome talks in their marriage and family life category. (Both CDs and MP3s are available.)
Do one small act of love for each other every day. (Ladies, check out our 40 Days of Loving Your Husband!)
Do the Stations of the Cross together each Friday.
Do the enrichment program United in Love-United in Christ. We did this one year with a large group of couples at our church, and it was great! You could do it with a small group in your own home as well, meeting once a week for 6 weeks.
Do one thing for your marriage each day of Lent with our Lent Challenge for Catholic Marriages.
Visit a pilgrimage site together…or visit several!
Commit to a weekly date night. Track your dates with our Date Night Tracker!

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